Collaborative divorce is a healthier alternative to the traditional divorce litigation model that sometimes appears to be the social norm. When a couple agrees to utilize the collaborative process, they are agreeing to commit to resolving their marital issues (including division of property, alimony, child custody, and child support) outside of the court system. As a part of the process, the divorcing couple often agrees to utilize various trained collaborative professionals, including collaboratively trained divorce attorneys, a financial neutral, a divorce coach, and a child specialist to assist the entire family as they move through the divorce process. These professionals all work together to move a divorcing couple toward an amicable, fair, and mutually agreeable resolution to their marital issues. Collaboratively trained professionals undergo extensive annual training in order to be qualified to assist families through this process, and are each highly skilled in their respective professional field.
There are many benefits to choosing collaborative divorce over litigation. The collaborative process gives individuals more control over the outcome of their matter, as opposed to leaving decisions about finances and children in the hands of a judge, who more than likely has an overcrowded court docket, very little time to devote to each case, and hears only the briefest snapshot of all of the issues that have arisen over the course of a long-term marriage before making decisions that affect the rest of your life. Because the collaborative process creates the opportunity for a divorcing couple to stay out of court, clients who choose a collaborative divorce find that they are able to navigate their divorce and the aftermath with their dignity and emotional wellness fully intact after the divorce. Most importantly, the collaborative process can shield families, including children, from the impact of increased hostility, distrust, and disdain between two divorcing spouses both during and after the divorce process.
Lindsey Dasher is an active member of the Charlotte Collaborative Divorce Professionals Group in Charlotte, North Carolina, as well as the South Carolina Family Solutions Group in York County, South Carolina. She is a seasoned collaborative law practitioner who believes in the collaborative process as the healthiest, most dignified way to divorce or resolve domestic disputes.